I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We’ve been taught that silence would save us, but it won’t. – Audre Lorde
Have you looked up what being a “feminist” is online?
“Feminist: someone who believes the radical notion that women are people.”
This definition came from Urban Dictionary and is the most popular chosen definition by the millennial generation. WHY?
It continually astounds me what women go through and have gone through. How many times have I heard the ‘joke,’ and I use that term loosely, ‘go make me a sandwich!’ Ha. Ha. Women who allow these ‘jests’ to be considered funny and acceptable are contributing to the never ending battle of women equality. I do not find it funny. I do not care if it was meant to be a joke. It is just perpetuating the thought, perhaps subconsciously for all the people who say the phrase ‘go make me a sandwich,’ that women belong in the kitchen.
Maybe you think I’m reaching, but I don’t think so. UN Women created a powerful campaign using real Google auto-complete searches to identify the most commonly searched phrases or sentences in the world.
This particular picture from their ad campaign uses the phrase “women should” and allows Google’s auto-complete feature to discover what the most common searches are accompanied with that phrase.
Here are the results:
- Women should… stay at home
- Women should… be slaves
- Women should… be in the kitchen
- Women should… not speak in Church
Is it a far stretch to think that ‘go make me a sandwich’ is having an impact on how women are being viewed? I don’t think so.
As a young woman, I do not wear makeup because I do not have to. However, I understand and believe makeup in moderation is a great tool for self-image. The pressure of beauty standards on women today is completely ridiculous. Colbie Caillat’ music video of Try is completely refreshing. “Do you like you? You don’t have to try so hard.” Yes. Yes! I do! And I wish more women liked themselves enough to feel like they didn’t have to try so hard. Society makes it hard.
I went to a college with a 17:1 male to female ratio and I put myself out there in leadership positions because I had to; yes, they tried to knock me down – but I did not let them. I write about women empowerment because feeling empowered and empowering others is an incredibly important aspect of my life.
Women equality is still a very real issue everywhere, including America. I will write about it; I will keep using my voice to try and make a difference until it has been achieved.
Someday, maybe I will have made a difference. Someday women will have the same pay as men for the same job and experience. Someday, there will not be rape. Someday the phrase women equality will be one of the past, just like sexual identity, and race. I may not be alive when that day comes, but I will have contributed. I speak for those who are
*The writing above originally appeared on a daily prompt post following a poem I composed. I have decided to remove the writing from that post and place it here with some additions.